Bits and Pieces
Sep. 8th, 2002 12:43 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mbarrick
This person can exist because I have met her in bits and peices. I have dated dollops of her, I am good friends with fractions of her, I have proposed to portions of her, and even once made a significant subset of her my significant other. She is passionate and romantic but not at the expense of her intellect. She's sexy and wild but never inappropriate: she'll go to the fetish club and the black tie soirée and not be out of place or uncomforable at either - there's even a good chance she'll pull them both off in the same dress. Friday she'll go to the pub and drink a pints and talk about philosophy and comic books. Saturday morning she'll shop for antiques and speak of laquers and varnishes, but Saturday night she'll down drinks that could peel paint and dance like she's kicking someone's ass in boots that make her ten feet tall and while wearing plasitc hair. She knows the bartender that freepours. She has one foot in the 19th century and the other in the 21st. Sunday she'll do the Times crossword waiting for Sunday brunch and spend the afternoon sipping coffee and listening to jazz while she makes art that I am envious of but not competative with. She'd rather have her name mentioned in a textbook than have a baby. She won't want to move in with me but she'll want to get an apartment in the same building. She'll be able to put on a black dress that makes you want to bite your hand like Squiggy and dance in a swishy way that makes you shut your eyes at work on a Wednesday afternoon and smile a private smile and makes the pile of crap on your desk go away just for a minute while you remember how she looked. And when work is out of control and you need to bring some of it home and work late, she'll sneak up behind you and kiss your neck while you are working and put a coffee beside you. She'll call you on your shit but not make you feel like shit while doing it. She'll go walking in the park with you and make fun of dogs. She's a city girl who'd rather go to a night-club than take a walk in the woods as a general rule, but she'll love the ocean and the mountians and visiting places like Duncan and Tofino. She's challenging, but rarely frustrating. She won't leave and argument unfinished and refuses to go to bed mad. When she's tired she curls up on the couch with the cats to read or watch TV and wants you with her.I don't think she is impossible. Just very, very difficult to find.
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Re: My List
Date: 2002-09-08 12:59 pm (UTC)haha boy do I know the joys of this one! My first gf was like Jeykle and Hyde when it came to her meds!
and try dating a girl who thinks she's a lesbian but then decides she only is when it comes to sex and not a relationship!
Re: My List
Date: 2002-09-08 01:09 pm (UTC)Yes, I can relate to that one in a photo-negative kind of way. It's that damn closet.
A little creative metaphor mixing:
"Closet monsters" - they suck you in, gobble up your soul, and then leave your skeleton in there for decoration.
Re: My List
Date: 2002-09-08 01:47 pm (UTC)"Sex and the City" quote
Date: 2002-09-08 02:03 pm (UTC)"Is that near Rickmartinville?"
I don't think anything is any different here, or New York, or where-ever. Sure there are more lesbians in a big city, but that also means more competition, more messed up people, more of everything. Proportionally speaking, the odds remain the same.
Re: "Sex and the City" quote
Date: 2002-09-08 06:01 pm (UTC)the thing that scares me about being a lesbian in Vancouver is I don't fit into a stereotype and I've heard you can be shunned by the community for that
Sex and the City
Date: 2002-09-08 06:36 pm (UTC)I can't believe I am about to enter into this conversation, but yeah, the stereotype thing is a problem. I ran into her at a coffee shop and had this bizarre conversation about meeting women in Vancouver. My ex-wife *was* very girly with long, blonde hair but considering doing a butch look because the girly thing wasn't getting her anywhere. Last time I ran into, about a year ago, holy-crap... my first thought was, "Be nice, she could kick the shit out of you." (I should point out that she is an inch taller than me, which makes her one hell of an imposing bull-dyke).
Re: Sex and the City
Date: 2002-09-08 06:58 pm (UTC)Re: Sex and the City
Date: 2002-09-08 07:14 pm (UTC)Re: Sex and the City
Date: 2002-09-08 07:29 pm (UTC)haha next time I'm down we'll hit the town hehe cause I seem to attract cute straight girls
Deal
Re: Deal
Date: 2002-09-08 08:04 pm (UTC)